from the inside out
We all want to change something in our lives. We want to stop doing things we think are 'bad' and start doing things we thing are 'good'. But how can we make changes that stick?
We can all make change when we feel forced or afraid. But does it last? We want to stop smoking or eating certain foods. We want to stop procrastinating.
Sometimes we can force ourselves to make a change because we are afraid of the consequences - and that can be poor health outcomes or just some fear of judgement for what be believe are negative behaviours.
When we force ourselves to make changes from fear, we are doing it from a fight/flight part of our nervous system. But we don't stay in that state forever, and when the fear drops away, the change suddenly seems less necessary and we can easily let our new behaviour fall away. This is why simple will power doesn't work.
The behaviours we want to change all served a purpose for us at one time – they numbed out our stress and made us feel better, even if only for a short time. And unless we can create new behaviours and patterns that meet our stress-reduction needs, the old behaviours will return even more strongly, with some additional shame and self-blame attached. And this makes it even harder to make change the next time we try.
Sustainable Transformation = Real Change
Choose Your New Path
Real change requires three things:
1. Our nervous system must be in its optimal state of functioning. Our rest and digest/social engagement system is also called the ventral branch of our parasympathetic nervous system. This is where change comes from power and not force. We are calm and centred. We build new patterns and behaviours that meet our real needs without masking our discomfort.
2. Consistent small actions are essential – not big huge steps. This is because our nervous systems resist change, even ‘good’ change. Because any change is NEW territory for our nervous system. We all have habitual behaviours and patterns that are deeply ingrained pathways in our brains. The only way to make lasting change is to take small steps to build new patterns in our brains. So instead of expecting ourselves to work out at the gym every day, walk 5 miles to and from the gym, and eat a perfect diet every day, we need to break down our desired change into small steps that help us build new habits and neural pathways.
3. The small steps must be meaningful to you – motivating and measurable.
Hi, I'm Georgia Barnwell
Energy for Transformation grew from my desire to help people like you make real change.
First, I learned to help myself through some pretty big changes that opened the door to a life filled with more connection, compassion, creativity, and courage.
I use Conscious EFT™ and other forms of Energy Psychology to help people:
- build a solid foundation of calm self regulation and inner peace,
- find clarity around unresolved experiences, limiting beliefs, and feelings of being stuck in life, and
- create inspired actions that that bring desired changes to life!
"I would recommend Georgia’s approach and work to people who are experiencing symptoms of trauma or anxiety, especially related to ourselves individually and our shared future on the planet. She creates a safe space for those of us interested in taking charge of creating positive transition for ourselves in a changing world."
(NS, Nova Scotia)
“I feel so fortunate to have connected with Georgia. Her compassion, wisdom and guidance, creative approaches and commitment helped me work through a really bleak time in my life. I probably would have survived without Georgia’s help but she helped me to a place where I can imagine I will thrive again. I am grateful beyond words.”